So why are orgasms so important in sexual pleasure and what are the benefits of an orgasm?

 

Orgasms are a sign that you have reached the pinnacle of your sexual pleasure and release feel good hormones Endorphins that leave you feeling really good, relaxed and for some people, they may also feel sleepy.

 

In addition to the rush of Endorphins, there are many benefits to having sex and orgasms such as the below that in my sex therapy Dubai and online I talk couples through –

  • Reduced risk of prostate cancer – Orgasms help to release toxics from the body and helps promote healthy prostate functioning.
  • Regulates menstrual cycle – Studies carried out by Stanford and Columbia Universities found that women who were having sex at least once a week had more regular cycles than those who didn’t have sex.
  • Pain relief – Orgasm can relieve pain including menstrual cramps and headaches.
  • Better sleep – As I mentioned earlier, orgasms leave you feeling so relaxed and can increase the chances of falling into a deeper sleep.
  • Improved immune system – Stress weakens your immunity so a stress reliever like orgasms can have a positive impact on your immune system because of the release of endorphins.
  • Anti-aging – I spoke briefly about the anti-aging benefits to having sex and this is because of orgasms increasing DHEA hormone levels which naturally drop in women after the age of 30 – hence the onset of the aging process.
  • Increases life expectancy – A study was carried out over a ten-year period to research the link between number of orgasms and mortality rates in men. Results found that men who had at least two orgasms a week had reduced their risk of mortality by 50% compared to those who didn’t have frequent orgasms.
  • Improves skin – There are several benefits orgasms have on skin – the improved circulation because of an orgasm makes your skin glow, looks rosy and bright. This rush of blood also increases oxygen levels which supports the production of collagen giving a more youthful, fresher look.
  • Stimulates your brain – Research conducted on women who masturbated while in an MRI machine monitoring the flow of blood to the brain found that when the women orgasmed, it increased the flow of blood to all parts of the brain which also increased the absorption of nutrients and oxygenation along with it.
  • Finally, it’s a form of exercise – Think about how hot and sweaty you get after sex – this shows how much energy you’re using during sex and can count as a form of exercise that burns calories. Of course, this would only count for regular sex sessions as you build your stamina up and experiment with different positions!

 

So, we know the benefits of good sex and orgasms, let me share some top tips on how to increase the eroticism and excitement in your sex life that tailored to the couples I help as a relationship counsellor in Dubai and sex therapist Dubai.

 

A little effort goes a long way –It can be easy to give up having sex because “you’re not in the mood” or it “takes too much effort” but it doesn’t have to be that tiresome. Sometimes the best sex experiences are nurturing and by that I mean slow, gentle and caring. Of course spontaneous or experimental sex is great also. Don’t plan anything too over the top, live in the moment and make a move on your spouse when you both least expect it. The more you do this the more you’ll enjoy the intimacy and the more you’ll find yourself wanting to have sex.

 

It’s so much fun to try new things. A couple I worked with, who had been married for 7 years, felt like they were getting bored in the bedroom. They always initiated sex the same way in the bed and in the same position. Although they were both open to trying new things, they didn’t know how to bring it up, so during one of our sessions together, I suggested sharing what their fantasies are with one another and taking action to incorporate those fantasies into their sex life.

 

I mentioned role play in the previous article/podcast. Dress up into different characters and re-enact storylines that get your blood pumping and adds something new or naughty and exciting to your sex life. Take it in turns to listen to one another’s ideas of what roles to play so that you are both feeling satisfied and fulfilled sexually.

 

Women can add self-pleasure whilst having sex with their partner. This can help women reach an orgasm as it is not always possible for the man during penetration to bring on an orgasm for his partner. That’s why I created the orgasmic hypnotherapy for women and also why I often work with women and couples to enhance their sex life in my relationship program.  The best sex for a man (most men anyway) is seeing their woman enjoy herself, having a great sexual response and having multiple orgasms.

 

The second thing I share as a relationship counsellor Dubai, couples counsellor and sex therapist dubai is how to create more mystery.

 

Mystery

 

Another thing you can explore is increasing the sexual tension by using mystery. There’s something so attractive and sensual about being a little mysterious. Even though your partner has seen you naked before, if you sent him/her a photo, whilst they are out of the house, of you that is slightly revealing but not fully nude, it can help build the sexual tension as it gets the imagination going. They may even reciprocate whilst they are out in a secretive way. Many couples share with me at the beginning of their relationship they enjoyed sexting and this stopped. So sexting and sharing photos that are not too revealing can help the sexual chemistry build. People think that a fully naked body is what turns someone on, actually this is false. Nudists beaches are the less erotic place I have heard, it’s the mystery. So you may also want to get some new underwear to make you feel more alive and to increase the passion. Sexting throughout the day can often lead to great sex as soon as you walk in the door. Build up is important whether it is viritual or with love and affection physically. Very few people can have no connection and then jump into amazing sex. Check what each other are comfortable with to avoid hurt or rejection.

 

When sex becomes routine or a chore it will be dull. Recognizing this is a great first step because it means you can take the action together. Many people share with me that they are too tired to have sex, well the average sex lasts 5 to 13 minutes so surely people can’t be that tired. Often it is a mental block not a physical tiredness. Just like going to the gym, you often don’t feel like it, but when you go you feel amazing and it feels great.

 

Making a change is about taking action, with couples I support I give them my sex book reading list for them to choose what works best for them. Educating yourself and experimenting with new things that you have learned can reignite the passion.  

 

I know that there are barriers that people put up because they have grown up to believe sex or experimenting with your intimacy is a shameful thing. I help men and women all over the world release these mental blocks.  In the UK culture so many people (like I once did) find it difficult to talk about sex. I remember when I opened the topic with one boyfriend he said to me, come on we are British we don’t talk about that. I was so embarrassed at the time, thinking I am bad. It’s important to have the conversation about sex if you want to improve, enhance or change it. This is why I created articles on this. To share it with our partner so you can hopefully begin talking about it and exploring the topic together.

 

The third thing I share as a relationship counsellor Dubai, couples counsellor and sex therapist dubai is how to create more connection and improve communication between a couple.

 

As I’ve discussed today there are so many benefits to having sex and having an orgasm. My advice would be to start with you, start exploring your sexual desires and how you like to be pleasured so that you can reap the benefits I’ve shared.

 

If you can resonate with what I have shared today and want support in developing a healthier relationship with sex and/or your partner, drop me an email nb@nicolabeer.com so that we can get you on the right track. I have years of experience helping unblock and release sexual trauma and have one to one coaching for individuals and couples to increase their pleasure.

 

For those who want to know more about the hypnotherapy in Dubai or online or the sex  therapy in Dubai check out my shop page where you can get sex hypnotherapy for women and men, which focuses on sexual confidence and overcoming common sexual issues for men. And 5 for women which includes my becoming orgasmic hypnotherapy track, sexual confidence and openness.

 

To find out more you can also ask me questions about couples counseling dubai, sex therapist dubai and relationship counselling dubai.