I’m sure you’ve heard stories of people who were about to start fertility treatment or given up and then found out they’re pregnant – I can’t help but connect this to the fact that once you’ve decided to go for treatment, sex becomes fun and spontaneous again because it’s no longer planned or forced. Similarly when couples say let’s stop trying. To support this the secretary of the British Fertility Society stated  “Sex should be as wild and thrilling as it was when they first met, when they weren’t thinking about babies, to give them the maximum possible chance of having a baby.”


In support of this statement, expert in reproductive physiology, Dr. Joanna Ellington, believes “One of the things that men don’t realize is that the more excited they are, the further back in the testicle they are going to draw on reserves [of sperm]. So if you have what I call ‘gourmet sex’, where you really spend time and you make it fun for both partners, that is going to make the man more stimulated and he is going to ejaculate more and healthier sperm.”