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Turning Crisis Into Opportunity For Your Marriage – Online Relationship Counseling Tips

Coming Closer, Rebuilding Trust & Togetherness


Whilst most of us right now have to stay indoors due to isolation and social distancing, it is such a great time to rekindle your love for one another. This includes going back to having date nights, spending time to reconnect without the distractions of the outside world, do little romantic things for one another like running a hot bath, cuddling on the sofa whilst watching a movie, playing games together, or spending time being intimate with one another. For those that seek online relationship counseling we cover 25 needs that build connection and release holding on to resentment – leaving people to feel more peace and love in their heart and home. Actions can help you to reignite that love and sensuality between you both.


In my online counselling for relationships I cover the “5 A’s” by David Richo, which he considered key in any relationship in order to flourish. The “5 A’s” are Attention, Acceptance, Appreciation, Affection and Allowing. I’ll briefly explain what each one means and how you can use this in your relationship and if you are living apart right now or single then treat yourself with these 5 A’s as they are key for self-love also –


  • Attention
    Being aware of others and the needs of our loved ones; including showing care and consideration for their feelings. This will encourage open and honest discussions, as when someone feels like the other person is truly paying attention, they are more likely to open up more.
  • Acceptance
    When you feel that you are respected, loved and understood, you feel accepted and as humans we are wired to feel wanted and accepted so that we do not feel alone.
  • Appreciation
    By showing someone that we appreciate them, we are validating that they are loved and wanted – it shows that their efforts do not go unnoticed. This means they will want to do more to show you love too.
  • Affection
    As humans we need physical, mental and emotional affection – this includes intimacy, feeling cared for and being in a warming and loving relationship. We do not function well when we are around cold and unloving people.
  • Allowing
    This is important and links well with the other A’s as it allows someone to to be themselves without strict rules or regulations – we do not try to control our loved one’s behaviours as controlling someone isn’t human and it really does make you feel less accepted and underappreciated.

  • There has never been a better time to work on your communication, relationship and self-love skills so reach out for coaching support or treat yourself to the marriage makeover audio program to rebuild your relationship in this time of crisis. It’s super affordable for a limited time only $97 – check out my shop page for details. If you would like to know more about online relationship counseling do get in touch, I’d be so happy to hear from you.


    Mila TutorMila Tutor
    07:10 25 Mar 23
    I have worked with Nicola for some time now and have found her to be compassionate, kind, and extremely helpful. She has helped me a lot.
    Riti SajitRiti Sajit
    06:58 25 Mar 23
    Nicola is a wonderful human 🤍 Thank you for helping me through my difficult time.Still living by your words and advice. I would definitely recommend anyone needing relationship counseling to try Nicola :)
    Mihaela BotnariMihaela Botnari
    12:54 17 Mar 23
    Thank you for destroying my relationship. My partner reached out for support and you advised him that there is nothing for him to heal and that he should send his girlfriend for therapy, like this is your place to tell him. I’ve been through therapy myself and I know how to make the difference between a good therapist and someone who just wants to get more money, and the second seems to definitely be your purpose!
    Helen HHelen H
    19:13 10 Nov 22
    Nicola’s support and advice proved invaluable when my marriage was struggling. Over a series of meetings (online and fact to face, to suit our needs), Nicola helped steer us through a very difficult time. She was always calm, neutral and never made us feel like we had failed or had ‘messed up’. Nicola has a wealth of experience and keeps up with current research, but has a very unique approach to getting you back on track. With regular support materials and just being there, she helped us realise that our relationship could go on; by making us look at ourselves and helping us consider the tools we needed to move forwards. I can honestly say that I don’t think our marriage would have survived such a difficult time without Nicola’s expertise. I often listen to Nicola’s podcasts on Spotify when I’m needing a bit of extra support. Thank you, Nicola
    Justin LossJustin Loss
    13:23 30 Jun 22
    Nicola has been a massive help. I had tried traditional counseling and it had seemed to be moving me further away from what I wanted. After listening to several of Nicola's podcasts I decided to reach out to her. The discovery call was enlightening and she described a process that was more focused on creating a better future vs reliving the pass. From there I went through her Breakthrough Program...All I can say is Wow! Her program and guidance has quickly changed my mindset which has in turn improved all my relationships and overall stress level. I highly recommend working with Nicola and can't thank her enough for her help and care.
    Ciaran CarlisleCiaran Carlisle
    22:16 23 Jan 22
    My partner and I spent a number of sessions with Nicola discussing our relationship difficulties, both together and one on one sessions. She has been so good to talk to - incredibly helpful and understanding with our problems.My partner and I have come out of this with a better understanding and move love for each other. Nicola has taught us many techniques to use in situations were we feel at odds which has been fantastic. We would recommend Nicola 100% for relationship advice.Thank you so much again.
    Loida Delgado-PerezLoida Delgado-Perez
    03:09 22 Jan 22
    Nicola's marriage counselling have been life changing for both my partner and I. The learnings have been exponential and have transform us individually and as a couple. We reached out to Nicola at the lowest point of our relationship and about to break apart. Her compassionate and smart yet practical advice and exercises transform us in such a way that we are now at the best we've ever been personally and as a couple.As a result we've decided to get married and book Nicola every year for a couple's check in! I couldn't recommend her sessions more to anyone feeling stuck and wanting to be in a better place. Best investment of time, money and effort EVER. Thank you Nicola, you are an inspiration to me and many others :)
    Christianne KaddoumChristianne Kaddoum
    17:19 20 Oct 21
    The hours I’ve spent working with Nicola have been the most valuable of my life.I now feel equipped to do things differently. It’s been the most liberating and empowering experience and I’ve learnt things that will stay with me forever.Through the excellent help from Nicola, it is now possible for me to have a different and healthier approach to various situations.She has professionally helped me to consider my perspectives in a way I hadn’t before.I can finally begin to reframe my life experience and see them in a whole new light.Thanks Nicola!
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