In my marriage counselling Dubai and online many share that what has led to the breakdown of the marriage is that one person is depressed or anxious all the time.
If you are in a relationship with someone who is always focusing on the negatives in life, is always unhappy and doesn’t allow themselves, or others, to enjoy the good things in life, it can put a huge strain on your relationship and family life.
Here are some things to consider first if you find yourself in a relationship with someone who tends to be unhappy, loves to complain and is generally turning positives into negatives –
All you can control is yourself, what you focus your energy on and how you will create happiness for yourself. Also plan things that lift you, organize family outings, go out with friends or family and live the life you want. You may have a positive impact on your loved one too!
Understand the difference between anxiety and a negative mindset and depression – It is so important to make yourself aware of the difference between someone who suffers from anxiety and someone who is addicted to negativity –
Negativity is anger at people, life, situations, being fed up, frustrated at others, blaming and seeing problems with everything. When I help people shift this I also notice a huge amount of self-loathing and low confidence present.
Anxiety is worry and fears about health, finances, situations and wanting to safeguard and protect from further harm.
If your partner suffers from anxiety or negativity, it is helpful to remember that their thoughts can be overwhelming and they are not deliberating choosing to ruin the mood or day. They may feel it’s impossible to change their mindset by thinking positively. I’d agree with them, telling oneself to think positively or focus on what to be grateful for is extremely difficult when the thoughts are hard-wired in the subconscious mind so they may need to seek professional help from a specialist who can help them with this to challenge and change their habitual negative thoughts.
Overall it is so important not to label anyone as negative or anxious – instead it is helpful to have empathy and compassion for them and the way they see the world at this point of time. Hopefully they will be inspired to change for themselves very soon.
If you find yourself struggling to focus on positives and are drawn to misery and unhappiness or complaining, here are some things you can incorporate into your life to make long lasting changes –
As a life coach and counselor in Dubai, I run several intensive programs to help people become free from the past and change how they feel. Contact me for life coaching, depression treatment Dubai, anxiety counseling and other life changes by whats app or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org